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Denver Post: Gays Arrive to Push Anti Bias Agenda
I was just perusing as usual today when a headline caught my eye from the Denver Post:
Gays Arrive to Push Anti Bias Agenda.
So what has my panties in a twist?
Well, the description of wanting equal rights as an agenda pisses me off to no end.
Equal rights is not an agenda. An agenda has slippery connotations in today's media. If I want to sell you a $20,000 car for $25,000 - that's an agenda. Agenda implies corrupt intent. A desire to be included in the democratic convention is neither corrupt nor an agenda.
Listen up Denver Post dipshits - equal rights - it's not that complicated.
Federal protection from discrimination and laws to govern hate crimes and oh yeah we'd like to get married legal like.
Methinks somebody woke up on the wrong side of the dyke bed this morning.
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McCain and his Gay Guards
Courtesy of Gawker.com and Queerty.
Is this a joke?
McCain is an even bigger idiot than I originally suspected.
Good grief.
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The Ending Gets Sadder for Eighth-Grader Larry King
The boy who was slain by another student for being gay still cannot rest today.
His family has filed suit against the school district and Ventura county for failing to protect him by enforcing their dress codes. Larry liked to wear high heels, make up and jewelry with his school uniform. According to his parents, the school knew he was vulnerable because of this, but refused to protect him or make him comply with dress regulations and therefore are culpable in his murder.
By law, schools are not required to lay down the dress code hammer. From a legal standpoint this suit will probably get thrown out before having its day.
Is the school responsible for the way your child dresses? Or did teachers and staff know that threats were made against Larry? And if they did, were reasonable precautions taken to keep him safe? Does it matter? Either way Larry isn't here to wear his make up and high heels.
One life gone, another ruined. The problem isn't that Larry was gay or that anyone on staff or at home didn't stop him from dressing up, the problem is intolerance and bigotry.
While the court tries to settle who's responsible, the obvious answer is whoever taught the killer that being gay is wrong to the point that someone should die because of it. This isn't a lesson in any geography book or art class. Hate is taught at home and tolerated elsewhere because most of us lack courage.
Maya Angelou says that while love, grace, tolerance, compassion are all important, none of them can be practiced consistently without a foundation built on courage.
Larry King knew all about courage. This brave little boy in high heels. It's too bad the adults in his life were such cowards.
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Coming Out for Madden
Every year I take what I call a Madden holiday. Yes, a Madden vacation.
I stand in line at midnight with pubescent boys and beer swilling, ball cap backwards wearing young men just to buy the new version of John Madden's video game. I'm a junkie. I've fallen and I definitely cannot get up.
I have been playing video football since the tecmo days of moving blips and I will be doing it until my last breath.
It's my father's fault. I suspect he wanted a boy, but what he got was me and I was a more than willing participant. He involved me in all sports, but none made my heart aflutter like football. The x's and the o's, the hits, the strategy, the slop, Lambeau Field in late December. Bliss.
So if my coming out blog feels a little weak this week, cut me some slack. Just remember video games come out too and oh do they make this one little lesbian very, very happy.
Signed,
Your 46 year old lesbian grown up. (really)
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Mama Needs a New Pair of Barns
I must be a kitten magnet. Just as I get semi used to the idea of
having five little ones nestled in my bathroom, another batch show
up on my doorstep who are about 4-5 weeks old. I've been feeding
the mama who had them stashed in some undisclosed location.
Well, apparently they got big enough to follow her to the trough
and they did - through traffic, dogs and willful humans.
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Kansas City to Gays: Ya'll Come Back Now
Some of you may recall an earlier story about my home town who gave the boot to some gay campers. The city said they were evicted from the grounds because of rule violations. The truth is we will never know for certain the why of it all.
Say what you will about the midwest, my little cow town Kansas City is making it right. The city will offer extensive diversity training to its staff which previously only included issues concerning race and gender. They are also taking measures to make it very clear that all campers are welcome so the homophobes will know up front and stay home or get over it.
Hidden in this press release is the really big news: Kansas City (Jackson County) will now protect gays against discrimination - something our federal government shamefully has yet to do.
The campers in this instance had no recourse because there are no laws currently on the books to protect them. Soon that will no longer be the case. So no more housing, employment or public accommodations discrimination.
Mooooooove over SF.
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McDonald's 1 - AFA 0
So how has poor little McDonald's fared since the AFA called for a boycott because of a donation to the gay chamber of commerce?
Well, it seems the AFA just might have too many members who enjoy a good chicken biscuit for breakfast. The giant restaurant chain had an 8 percent gain in the month of July.
That'll learn 'em.
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National Coming Out Day
As this summer winds down, we are fast approaching National Coming Out Day which is held to commemorate the first organized gay march on Washington.
I love the idea of having a certain time of the year that recognizes the importance of living authentically, but it still strikes me as odd to think of a group en mass coming out because of a date on a calendar (October 11th).
If it urges anyone to be true to themselves who is ready - fantastic. If it urges anyone to come out prematurely - not so fantastic.
What may be good for one is not necessarily good for all and I won't even get into the slippery slope the HRC has found itself recently with some backtracking doublespeak.
If you're ready to have your insides match what you project externally, come out and if you're not, stay in. Either way for today, it's okay. Sometimes the best life altering decision one can make is to decide not to make a life altering decision at this moment.
You're welcome here regardless.
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They're Still Out and Cute
Ignore the crazy sounding lady in the video telling
Mama Mojo to stop bumping the camera. And
the shirt they're sleeping on is clean just stained
so no PETA letters.
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Fred Phelps and the Church that Burned
The Westboro Church had a small fire this weekend.
Oddly enough all local footage showed firefighters
desperately 'rescuing' the infamous "God Hates
Fags" signs from the structure. Really. Thank
Jesus the signs were saved. If you don't want to
give Pastor Phelps any further attention than he's
already gotten - don't watch. I understand completely.
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Coming Out to Parents Videos
This was a video and response I found on youtube.
It can apply to many who are struggling with the decision.
I love the honesty.
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McBush
McScary...