Coming Out 101 - Part II
In Coming Out 101 Part I, I talked about being prepared for any reaction and finding your comfort zone between your self image and the truth of what you present to the world.
I amazingly left out the step that comes before anything:
You can't come out to the world until you come out to yourself.
The truth always begins at home.
When you just sort of think you might be maybe quite possibly dunno but it looks like a duck - gay or lesbian - coming out may not be the smartest choice you make today. There are other more constructive steps you can take to bring yourself to an honest realization.
Coming out to the world when you're not even sure what the heck you're owning up to is reckless at best and potentially emotionally dangerous.
Of course when you're young you don't know what to call it.
All you know is your third grade teacher was cute as was your chem lab partner and your boyscout troop leader. Quack quack.
Telling others about who you are is an incredible freeing experience if you know who you are. You can't expect others to ease into this news when it is presented by someone who is seeking confirmation instead of affirmation. Nobody can know your truth until you do and being okay isn't a gift anyone else can give you.
I amazingly left out the step that comes before anything:
You can't come out to the world until you come out to yourself.
The truth always begins at home.
When you just sort of think you might be maybe quite possibly dunno but it looks like a duck - gay or lesbian - coming out may not be the smartest choice you make today. There are other more constructive steps you can take to bring yourself to an honest realization.
Coming out to the world when you're not even sure what the heck you're owning up to is reckless at best and potentially emotionally dangerous.
Of course when you're young you don't know what to call it.
All you know is your third grade teacher was cute as was your chem lab partner and your boyscout troop leader. Quack quack.
Telling others about who you are is an incredible freeing experience if you know who you are. You can't expect others to ease into this news when it is presented by someone who is seeking confirmation instead of affirmation. Nobody can know your truth until you do and being okay isn't a gift anyone else can give you.
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